 | You Must Be Mad at Something
Tuesday, December 15, 2009 | I got a call one evening from a very angry and upset gentleman. He had just had a fight with his daughter and needed someone to calm him down or agree with him, he did not know which he wanted. His wife had... Read More
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| | Freedom to React
Tuesday, September 08, 2009 | I am often referred to as a grief expert. Most of the time, at least when I can do so without embarrassing someone, I try not to accept that term. There are no experts in grief. Grief is as unique as a finger print. Everyone responds to grief... Read More
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| | What Happened to My "Want To"?
Monday, June 29, 2009 | As I left for a speaking engagement, the office manager told me she had invited a couple to meet me for dinner in the city where I was to speak. The wife had called to order books and had said that her fourteen-year-old son had accidentally hanged himself. The manager said, “She keeps saying she doesn’t want to go on. . . Read More
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| | Grief and Divorce
Tuesday, May 12, 2009 | Grief may be the source behind many of the social problems in our society. People seem to think I am a little weird when I make such declarations, but I believe many of the things we call social problems have their beginning . . . Read More
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| | Grief and Sexuality
Monday, February 23, 2009 | When I began to discover that some grieving people find themselves thinking about sex I was very surprised, to say the least. After years of companioning grieving people and hearing their stories . . . Read More
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| | Grief and Substance Abuse
Tuesday, January 13, 2009 | It is evident that some people drink to get through the pain of grief, and can easily become at least emotionally addicted in the process. When we use a substance to dull the pain, we can become afraid to quit in case . . . Read More
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| | Grief and Eating Disorders
Monday, December 01, 2008 | Most of the information we have about grief comes from observations and biographical stories rather than from research and analysis. Most of what we know about grief we have learned in the last thirty years. When I started writing about . . . Read More
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| | Grief Diverted
Monday, October 20, 2008 | Anger is a very important component in the grieving process. Expressing anger is a vital part of the healing we need. I do not ever want to discourage anger or its expression in any way. but there needs to be at least a word said about not letting the anger dominate us . . . Read More
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| | Grieving What You Never Had
Monday, July 07, 2008 | A nun left a voice message saying her ninety-nine year old mother had died recently. She seemed rather upset so when I called her back I was fully prepared to hear how no one would allow her to grieve. Since her mother had lived so long, most people would think she should be glad she had her for such a long life, and not be shocked by her death. I was fully prepared to give her permission to grieve. I was shocked by what I heard . . . Read More
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