 | What Are We Suppose to do About Sex?
Wednesday, May 11, 2011 | One of the goals I had for these blogs was to have a place where we could discuss anything and everything with honesty and openness. There are some hidden corners in the grieving process that are rarely, if ever, disclosed or thought about... Read More
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| | It Takes a Family
Friday, April 15, 2011 | I am currently meeting with a family as a group unto themselves. Matter of fact I meet with the grandparents and a cousin at one session and the parents and a sister in another session. At some point... Read More
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| | No One Asked Me How I Felt
Wednesday, February 09, 2011 | A group was studying the value of a listening ear. They had viewed the video we produced calledThe Power Of Presence. The discussion was open and almost everyone was sharing from their own experiences... Read More
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| | What Then Can People Do For Us?
Thursday, December 16, 2010 | Last week’s blog might have sounded far more pessimistic than I intended or than I am. I said there is no such thing as comfort, and I meant... Read More
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| | The Comfort Myth
Wednesday, December 08, 2010 | Several years ago I met several times with five grieving families in a small town in Texas. Two car wrecks ten days apart had claimed the lives of their sons and daughters. That many young people dying in such a short span had... Read More
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| | Introducing The Care Community Chat Room
Tuesday, July 20, 2010 | I have been writing these post for over two years now and hope to continue until my mind no longer works. That may not be as far off as I would like and may be here already and I just don’t know it. I am... Read More
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| | Blog Update
Wednesday, June 30, 2010 | I am sorry but I have not posted anything new for a couple of weeks. I have been on the road and found a lot of places where my web provider and even my cell phone... Read More
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| | Old Friends
Thursday, May 27, 2010 | One of the sad truths about grief is that we not only lose a loved one, but, many times we lose friends as well. I talk a lot in these posts about finding safe people. We need people who feel safe to us. People we don’t have to worry... Read More
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| | It Takes a Family 2
Wednesday, May 05, 2010 | The night before my grandmother’s funeral my father suggested that we go have a visit with her. We went to the funeral home, sat beside her body, and told stories for two hours. I do not remember much about her funeral but I will always remember... Read More
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| | Friends
Wednesday, April 21, 2010 | FRIENDS
Most of the help we need and receive in our grieving Must come from our friends. Friends who walk beside us And not try to take the pain away... Read More
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| | What is Grief Counseling?
Wednesday, March 24, 2010 | I have been corresponding by email with a woman whose husband died a few months ago. She, of course, feels lost and alone with no one... Read More
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| | The Value of Remembering
Thursday, March 11, 2010 | A woman showed up early for a new grief group that was to deal with the death of a child. The group was meeting at a funeral home and the woman was in her seventies so everyone assumed... Read More
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| | The Healing of Ceremonies
Monday, January 25, 2010 | My friend Bob, whom I had the privilege of walking with through the last year of his life, was a creature of habit. He put $1.13 in his pocket each and every morning. Three quarters, three dimes, a nickel and three pennies... Read More
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| | The Elephant in the Room
Friday, October 09, 2009 | I have a new friend whose wife of sixty-two years died a few months ago. Since I have been married for fifty-six years, I cannot imagine what kind of hole is left when a spouse... Read More
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| | It Takes Honesty
Monday, June 22, 2009 | Most of what I know about grief I learned walking with people as they fight their way through the jungle of tangled feelings and emotions following the death of a loved one. Some of the best learning has happened in the times I have been able to have a grief group composed of just one . . . Read More
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| | One More Night with the Frogs
Thursday, May 07, 2009 | I am sorry this blog is so late. I had two trips far too close together and too far apart. One was in Las Vegas and the other in Albany NY. Since I travel by car, it is hard to keep current in the blogging department. I am home and will try to do better.
There is an interesting little tid bit in one of the stories found in . . . Read More
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| | Understanding
Monday, April 06, 2009 | I love the word "understanding." Most of us just want someone to understand us. Of course, no one can actually do that fully because there is no way for us to explain how we feel using mere words and that is all we have to work with. The last thing we want . . . Read More
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| | In Defense of Tears
Monday, January 01, 0001 | Her daughter died very tragically seven years ago. We long ago passed from meeting together so I could walk beside her through the grieving process. We became wonderfully close friends who get together when we can to talk like old and close friends do... Read More
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| | It Takes a Family
Monday, January 01, 0001 | The loss of a family member impacts each person in the family, but it also impacts the family unit itself. I think it takes a family to grieve a loss. That does not mean people with no family cannot work through their grief. It just means if there is a family, the interpersonal relationships are vital to the family completing the grief journey without being estranged from one another... Read More
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| | Why Does It Help to Talk? Part One
Monday, January 01, 0001 | I am sure some people who are going through grief get tired of being told that they need to talk about it. Usually they are bombarded with "Don't keep it inside". "Let it all out," and other clichés. Some are more comfortable with talking than others. . . Read More
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| | You Never Outgrow the Need for a Safe Place
Monday, January 01, 0001 | We don't get open criticism, just hints and suggestions. Her daughter was murdered seven years ago and we still meet as regularly as our schedules will allow. We started meeting in a grief recovery mode some would call counseling. I don’t use that term. It sounds as if the people I deal with are . . . Read More
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| | When You Have Said It All: Say It Again
Monday, January 01, 0001 | His son died in his sleep for no apparent reason and certainly with no warning. There is no loss equal to the death of a child, but he lost even more. His whole future was based on passing his business to his son who was proving to be . . . Read More
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| | There Are No Words
Monday, January 01, 0001 | A grieving woman became upset enough to contact us and protest our description of grief as a journey in the title of our DVD program. She said, "If you think grief is just a walk in the park, you are badly mistaken." We were shocked that someone would interpret . . . Read More
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| | Symbols of Presence
Monday, January 01, 0001 | One of the things that make the holidays or any family gathering painful after a death is the feeling that the loved one is not only not present, but too often it feels like they aren't even missed. No one mentions the name. There seems to be . . . Read More
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